Wednesday, November 5, 2008

Love without attachments

Love without attachment, does it seems contradictory. If I say I love my girlfriend (even though now I don’t have any :) ), it obviously means I am attached to her. It is so obvious. Same case happens with other things too. Loving wife, children, parents, job etc makes you attached to all those beings and things. Generally we think that attachment is a second side of love and it is natural. Up to certain extent I am very much agreeing to this that attachment which comes with love is natural with your loved ones, favorite things, situations.

Love is a feeling and attachment is an emotion. Now you will ask me huh what the difference between two is, it’s again the same thing. Well there is a difference. Love is feeling within and emotion brings strong feeling, possessiveness, and obsession. I know you must be thinking I am mentally disturbed or I am mad. But love without attachment is true love, pure love, that’s what I think. If we observe carefully everyone is in search of true, permanent, long lasting love. At least I am :) Attachment brings mental fatigue, mind disturbs.

I think true and pure love is free from attachments, lust, obsession etc. Love between Gopis and Krishna is the best example of this one.
It took me a lot of time to agree that love and attachment are two different things. But still to follow it in practical life is not that much easy for me. I think it is a continuous process throughout the life.


Keep Smiling,
Jai Gurudev.

7 comments:

Sunand K Nambiar said...

interesting..

Harshita said...

Yeah... it is difficult to understand in practical life.

They say true love is beyond attachment but in this insecure world...attachment spells love...

Interesting post.

Nidhi said...

i never thot abt love and attachment being diff from Each other.. yet yes its true.. truly agree with the eg u gave on Gopies and Khrishna

gnosticgirl said...

I believe you are right.
Love is a quality of the consciousness, and the more you develop your consciousness the more you develop your capacity for love and compassion for all of humanity. Attachment, lust etc etc are manifestations of the subconscious, and these smother the love of the consciousness. Although I think there are very few among us who have experienced love in its truest sense, it is something only known to those who have undertaken a profound work upon themselves and have awakened their consciousness. The rest of us speak of such things which are completely unknown to us.

Vinod Patil said...

Hi everyone thanks for you comments. Well definitely i believe tht true love is not bound by anger,fear, lust etc.

In Search Of Myself said...

Jai Gurudev!!

Quite true...However I believe that attachment, fear, lust, anger are also forms of same Love inside you...distorted forms.

Guruji once said...Pyaar sabse karo magar rishta kisi se ne banao...that sums it all...Love eberyone but don't make a relationship..That's Love of an enlightened person...100% care for th other person and 100% dispassion together...

And true is an ongoing learning process

Vinod Patil said...

That is absolutely true